Thursday, August 27, 2009

Final Reflection

Kimberly Ziccardi
Spring Grove Cemetery
Hunley, Marcha
25 August 2009

Final Reflection

In the beginning, I was very skeptical about having a class centered around a cemetery and actually holding class at a cemetery. I had ideas engraved in my head like many others, that cemeteries were scary, creepy, and no place to be especially at night. I blame the media for the majority of these presumed stereotypes. Every scary movie portrays cemeteries as the scariest and most unpleasant place to be. Maybe it’s the idea that I’m only a few feet away from a dead body or maybe it’s the fear of when death may fall upon me. Moreover, shockingly, I honestly felt they were somewhat pointless and a waste of valuable space. I used to think “The people are already dead; it doesn’t affect them what happens now.” Trough these past nine weeks of class many of my first impressions have been proven inaccurate. It turns out that not only is Spring Grove not scary or creepy; it is gorgeous, with an assortment of plant and flower life. It is also a very valuable asset to the community and society as a whole.

I have personally found Spring Grove to be a very pleasant place. Whereas in the beginning I was wary about coming, as the weeks went on, I actually looked forward to it. There are no babies crying or parents arguing or out of control chaos. Everything is strategically planned organized and maintained everywhere from the placement of graves to the positioning of the flowers. The abundant plant life and the amazing variety of flowers offer beautiful scenery and a peaceful atmosphere. In fact, I’ve learned that many actually come to Spring Grove for events such as weddings and senior pictures. These events somewhat counteract any emotions attached with a stereotypical cemetery. There are also many activities that go on that are the same as those found in a park such as people taking long walks and bike rides through the winding roads. Others sit on benches in front of the lakes filled with ducks. Seeing a place so peaceful would only reiterate the foundation of which cemetery are based on; a place of eternal peace and rest.

Although Spring Grove is like the Champs Elysee of cemeteries, I believe it a long with every other cemetery is a direct reflection upon society. Spring Grove shows a society who is caring and dedicated to not only the living but the preservation and the well being of the deceased. Furthermore cemeteries are vital to the preservation of historical content. I agree with Marcha when she spoke about cemeteries being like a museum without walls. There is an overabundance of information engraved in each grave stone. The countless symbols and the phrases tell stories about past events and reflect how each individual would like to be remembered. Also, I had never realized how much cemeteries were designed for the living until now. Although I have not yet had anyone truly close to me pass away, I now know the importance of a cemetery on the basis of reflection. It allows the living to feel like there is still time to talk and say those last words they never had the chance to say. They offer a peaceful place for one to come and visit lost loved ones and reminisce on past memories and experiences. They bring closure for the simple fact that you know the one who has past is safe and never too far away.

One huge epiphany that came to me throughout the time spent here is that death is inevitable and sometimes closer than we hoped. Just like anything that evokes fear, I suppressed and ignored the issue altogether. While walking through the cemetery and reading some of the dates on the tombstones, my mind would often wonder off, imagining how I would die and at what age. I would then get somewhat depressed thinking of all the things I dream of doing in the future and haven’t had the opportunity to experience yet. I want to sky dive and visit Europe and be there for my son’s wedding. I would then snap back to reality and contemplate how I would like to be buried; in the ground, above ground, or cremated. Nor did I even consider how I wanted to be remembered by. This course definitely offers a new outlook on the importance of cemeteries and life in general. Constantly being surrounded by dead bodies definitely puts the time factor of life into perspective. It just reiterates the age old phrase, live each day as if you were to die tomorrow.

A Fine and Private Place

Kimberly Ziccardi
Spring Grove Colloquium
Hunley, Marcha
27 August 2009

A Fine and Private Place

The novel “A fine and Private Place” explores the conflicting theme of both life and death. Although it is clear that death is eminent throughout the novel, much about life is explored through the experience of death. Michael and Laura for instance both passed away and although dead, continuously hold onto the sensations and emotions felt when alive. The uncomfortable feeling of the unknown has trapped them into this mindset of holding onto everything known when alive. Through this they try to hold onto the abilities and characteristics needed in order to be considered alive such as speaking and desperately try to preserve their memory and past experiences. They go through an ongoing struggle of not wanting to let go of what has always been comfortable to them. Mr. Rebeck also struggles with this. Although he himself is alive, living in the cemetery for nineteen years has caused him to seriously become detached from the outside world and life in general. He spends his days playing endless hours of chest with ghosts and wasting time walking around an empty cemetery. He has completely shut himself off from the outside world and acts as if he wants nothing to do with the living. Furthermore, having a mausoleum as a home, he seems to have already marked his grave.

Fear also seems to be a large factor when considering the behavior of the characters. Fear of the unknown has lead both Michael and Laura fighting to keep past memories present and knowledge acquired while living up to date. They struggle to accept the inevitable death has to bring them. Sounds aren’t going to sound the same because there is no necessity for hearing anything anymore when dead. They struggle to understand that with death brings change. They continue to talk even though many are unable to hear them for fear of not being able to. The fear of the unknown has bound them into a never ending challenge of staying alive. Mr. Rebeck on the other hand had the opposite problem with fear. He fears actually living because of the potential pain human interaction brings. He has completely isolated himself from the rest of the population on the basis of the unknown as well. He is fearful that people will harm and hurt him emotionally. Thankfully Mr. Klapper came along and helped him realize that there isn’t much to be afraid of. She showed him that there are good people in the world and this began Mr. Rebecks turn to actually living.

Love also seems to be eminent in the novel. Fear of not having love in their lives anymore and of never being loved again brought Michael and Laura together. It was clear that while alive neither had great experiences with love which leads me to believe that neither fully grasped the concept of love. Michael was in a failing and miserable marriage although in denial most of the time and Laura had never really been in love. There love came about quickly and out of necessity to once again hold onto the known emotions and way life used to be like. Now that they are dead and unable to truly feel what love is they try to hold onto the last remnants of the true and happy love they did experience and share it with each other. Being dead was scary and having someone else there brought comfort.

The Raven seems to be the only one who knows the difference and is clearly able to distinguish between life and death. He is certainly the most animated character in the story and cleary understands the meaning of life, the up’s and downs that come with it and actually lives. Although not the most sensitive character, his compassion is clearly shown through his responsibility to care for Mr. Rebeck. He spends his life serving and taking care of Mr. Rebeck in order to fulfill the preconceived notion that this is his purpose in life. Everything Mr. Rebeck has and eats and all of his entertainment comes from the Raven’s hard work and dedication. The Raven essentially keeps Mr. Rebeck physically alive even though, clearly he has been mentally dead for many years. Even Mr. Klapper seems to at times struggle with life and leave the notions associated with being alive behind. She spends her much of her time in her home and at the cemetery visiting her husband, feeling guilty for her last words spoken to him. Furthermore, it seems she has a skewed view of what was important to her husband. She spent a lot of money on a big mausoleum for her husband thinking that’s what he would have wanted to be remembered by and it turned out, it’s not what he wanted at all.

Throughout the novel life and death are mysteriously interconnected. The living struggled with what life had to offer and the dead struggled with what death had to bring. No one likes change, and many do whatever they can to grasp what is comfortable to them. People live their whole lives chasing peace from within which becomes a never ending task in itself. Once dead, one has the ability to truly experience peace of mind and body and a cemetery is the perfect fine and private to do it at. This novel teaches us to never take anything for granted and to always cherish the moments spent a live.

Discussion with Guest Speaker John Tallmadge

Kimberly Ziccardi
Spring Grove Coloqium
Hunley, Marcha
27 August 2009

Guest Speaker Response

I have to say I thoroughly enjoyed the discussion with John Tallmadge. Although I had to leave a little early due to a family emergency, the time I spent in the conversation was a pleasant one. I found him to be very down to earth and gave many great ideas and questions to further elaborate on the topic at hand. Even though I have not had the chance to read anything he has written, I also felt he was very intellectual and sensible. I especially liked how I never thought he spoke above me and was always interested and at the conversation at hand. I enjoyed the further discussion on cemeteries being for the living and a place where people can come and reflect on anything and everything. He was very well spoken and nice when trying to evoke thought with questions for us to answer regarding the current topic.

I also enjoyed the discussion about how cemeteries are at their core a business entity and this needs to not be forgotten. Everyone wants to make a profit and will try by means of manipulation. For example, getting people to purchase expensive lots or tombstones. I also found him very relatable especially when I spoke about my views on this. I appreciated when he coincided with my point of view regarding the overly expensive monuments being somewhat of a waste of money. My mind just wonders to the many more productive and beneficial things that money could have been allocated and invested into. Although I feel that people should have something to be remembered by, I believe that giving money to a charity in honor of their name is more impressive than a big stone statue. The lives this money would impact would have a lot more of a lasting impression. The name in which the money was given honoring would also be remembered and spoken about a great deal more than having it sculpted out of marble and sitting in a cemetery.

I particularly liked how everyone spoke and was engrossed in the conversation. Going around the table and each person bringing new ideas to the table to talk about lead into a very open and interesting discussion. Relating topics back to the novel we were required to read also helped the conversation be more enjoyable. I personally liked how the novel didn’t really mention much about religion and let the reader to come up with their own thoughts of what would happen next. Overall it was a great discussion and a great time.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Refelction Week 8

Kimberly Ziccardi
Spring Grove Cemetery
Hunley, Marcha
20 August 2009

This week we spent a lot of time discussing the role, cemeteries play in society. There were many great ideas some of which were that cemeteries are for the living more so than the dead. I truly believe this. Nothing means anything to the dead anymore. There is nothing left but an empty shell; a body, but for the living there are countless memories and endless emotional attachments. Cemeteries are important due to the fact they preserve the memory of the loved ones lost and honor them for all their good deeds achieved when alive. Funerals bring closure to those who are able to say their last farewells and cemeteries preserve the site at which people are able to continuously visit and pay their respects. One of the other ideas is how cemeteries are broken down into a simple function of business. Considering that I myself am a business major, this concept was exceptionally appealing to me. Basically cemeteries are business entities that have bills and try to make a profit.
The other half of the class was spent walking through the memorial mausoleum. This was a beautiful and innovative way to preserve the dead. Although a little eerie due to the dead bodies that were merely a few feet away from me behind a block of rock, it was very beautifully laid out. The different rows of marble gave elegance and class to the building. I especially loved the different stain glass windows depicting scenes from the old and New Testament. There is also numerous mosaic pieces decorated on the walls of each floor. Even the urns were beautifully placed behind glass cases. The building was overall pretty dark and somewhat scary at times. I guess it’s hard to shake old stereotypes even when with a group of people. Overall, everything was stunning and definitely a modernized way of “burying” the dead.

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Reflection Journal

Kimberly Ziccardi
Spring Grove Colloqium
Hunley, Marcha
13 August 2009

This week, like all of the others I was blown away by Spring Grove Cemetery. While listening to the last of the presentations on other cemeteries compared to Spring Grove, it just reiterated the fact that Spring Grove is definitely superior in just about every aspect. There is beautiful landscape with a very diverse amount of plants and flowers. This helps ease the feeling of being in a creepy cemetery. It has almost like a park feeling to it. There are always people there, either by taking a tour, visiting a lost loved one, or just visiting and observing. There is clearly substantially less effort placed in many of the surrounding Cincinnati cemeteries. Besides them being quite smaller and bland when speaking of landscape, they are also not very pleasant places to be. The tomb stones were breaking and grass was overgrowing them. It is appalling to think that people could even be as careless as to miss-mark tomb stones and then proceed to try to burry bodies over existing occupied grave sites.

The walk about through the cemetery was also nice. I have never really seen a sphinx much less one so big made into a representation of a tomb stone. The tall mausoleum was also a very new experience. Although a little creepy it was nice to actually be able to walk inside the gates and get to see what one was like. The architecture was absolutely extraordinary. I still remember noticing the building around the second week of class. It is very beautiful and eye catching. It was definitely a shame that the second floor was rotted out and we weren’t able to go up there but I could easily picture the rows of pews used by the family to worship those lost below them. It is a very personal and intimate type of place to build and definitely shows the amount of respect love and money that family shared with one another. The whole experience was one I will never forget.

Thursday, August 6, 2009

Reflection Week 4

Kimberly Ziccardi
Norman Chapel
6 August 2009

This week I found the discussion about the metaphors and analogies with spring grove interesting. One of my favorite ones was the one stating that Spring Grove Cemetery is like a museum without walls. Ever since I had my son, I make many connections to children’s activities such as Spring Grove is like taking your child for a last stop for ice cream before going home at night. Regardless of the way you look at Spring Grove, the fact remains the same; it is a very diverse and fascinating place.

With each week spent at the Spring Grove Cemetery I am amazed when discovering how much a cemetery has to offer a community. Clearly the highlight of this week was the Normand Chapel. To start, let me just say, it is an absolutely beautiful place. When my family and I first moved into our house we had stain glass windows and although most have been replaced we still have one left in our front door. This is where my appreciation for such gorgeous works of art came from. It blows my mind to think of how meticulously crafted stain glass such as that in the Norman Chapel is. Also the fact that weddings are held here blows my mind. I never would have assumed people would actually want to be married in a cemetery. This brings new light on the topic of a cemetery is just for death. This proves that cemeteries are also places of unification and new beginnings; a happy place, and one of which should be enjoyed and experienced.

Thursday, July 30, 2009

St. John's Cemetery

St. Johns
St. John’s is part of Cincinnati’s catholic cemetery society. It is located at 4423 Vine Street, in St. Bernard across the street from Roger Bacon High school. It was founded on Oct. 7, 1849 at a time of a cholera epidemic due to overcrowding of other cemeteries. There are many of Cincinnati’s oldest German families buried here with many of their tomb stones written in German. The cemetery is still active, although now there are less than two dozen burials a year. The grounds of the cemetery are maintained through a trust that was set up in the 1950’s.
St. John’s Cemetery is a much smaller cemetery than Spring Grove Cemetery. You can almost stand in one spot and see the entire cemetery. There was one main road and only two side roads. While walking through, I noticed very little wildlife and hardly any variation in plant life. There were basically just shrubs lining the back wall of the cemetery. The majority of the ground was flat with one hill lining the side of the cemetery. There were no monuments at the head of tombstones addressing the family by last name. There were only medium sized statues and small tomb stone heads. It was clear that this was a catholic cemetery. Many of the tomb stones had symbols of Jesus, crosses, and angels. Moreover there were even full statue tomb stones sculpted in the shape of Jesus himself. Like I mentioned earlier, many were written in German and many of those who are buried there were around the late 1800’s early 1900’s. Also, there are big gaps of open land towards the back of the cemetery in between sections of like 20 tombstones. Cleary, there is still a lot of land left to be covered at St. John’s Catholic Cemetery.